It's great lil chookie that you have found that peace and self-assurance within yourself. Maybe if I try to let go a little, I can do the same. I think every woman goes through a moment of 'realistion' that the obsession is too much, and then they can 'back down' a bit. But until they do find that self-assurance, I think it's a fair bet that the obsessing may continue!! So no, I don't believe obsessing is healthy, but it is afterall human nature to excell and pressure oneself for performance.

It all comes down to trusting your body to 'do its thing'. If you need a little help, then it's there for the taking.

I've only been trying for less than a year, but my husband has been away for (we crunched the numbers the other night) 8 months of this year in total. Where does a baby fit into that I ask you? But still, I obsess about whether it's my body that is the problem (not timing or genetics!).

I guess it really comes down to becoming more relaxed in our own time, and trying not to forget that trying for a baby is supposed to be fun, not obsessive.

Thanks for your thoughts,

julesy
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(That's my little bit of hope)