OMG do I DARE even hope??!!!

[*becstar*]

I don't know if this is the right place but I'm so brimming with hope while at the same time trying to keep a lid on it!!

As some of you will know DS2 was supposed to be the last. I worked hard to get him And ever since he was born I KNEW he wasn't the last. I spent many nights awake feeding him, looking a him and crying cos I just knew in my heart he COULDN'T be my last.

So he's now going to be 2 in March and I've spent that whole time telling and asking DH for ONE more. And time and time again I've gotten a big fat NO. A couple of times I got hope, but got squashed too.

The last few weeks I reduced him to "fine, if that's what you want do it" but it's been a bit narky, and that's not what I want at all!!

But tonight I asked him kinda jokingly what I should do with Jake's nappies he's outgrown....should I sell them? and his response was (in a nice, normal tone) "well it's up to you but you still want one more"

Gobsmacked much??

So.....am I holding on to nothing here??? The last thing I want is a child he really doesn't want. But then in this situation someone has to give.....

[Dragonbub]

Becstar hun, only the planets and the moons know the answer! Sometimes it is catch 22 you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. It is hard, because on the one hand, you might have to live your life knowing that DH wasn't entirely sold on the idea of another bub, and probably would have been fine without him/her. On the other, can you go the rest of your life without another? Therin lies the answer.

therefore, I would go for it (but that's just me). Men can procreate their entire lives, and don't feel the same urgency that we feel. We only have a fairly narrow window of opportunity to make up our own minds and convince the men to play the game.

Good luck hun with whatever decision you come up with,

[Niamh75]

My husband only wanted two children we have 4 now LOL but I like you waited patiently and he slowly came round and is very happy and loves all our children.

He was adamant that 4 was it and wanted to get the snip! I am happy with my 4 but do not want to remove the chance as the grass is always greener and I think he is to young for such a finial decision.

But sometimes I think yep I could see us with one more, and when I was feeding our youngest she is just a year so I am enjoying still breastfeeding her, he mentioned weaning and I said na we have loads of time for that she is my last, then he said ahhh thats what you said the last time!!! I just smiled and thought what does he mean by that LOL

so he may be leaning towards your thinking and thats a positive!

[onthefly]

oooo, sounds promising

[*becstar*]

well i have more promising comments today so I'm over the moon!!

I think i still need more time to work him around to wanting it yk?? I'm positive once a baby arrives it'll all be good of course but I still need him to really be on side and not just making me happy.

I just can't believe it!!!

[Lulu]

Squuuuueeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

[*becstar*]

Lulu!! I saw you'd posted and thought you were gonna remind me how difficult things had been Am not jumping in just yet.....so don't stress I swear your Remedy changed my life woman!!!

[Lulu]

I know chick - yeah it has been hard but you know you are in the right headspace. You know what you are doing xoxoxoxo

and again - squeeeeee!