too TTC a 4th or wait until the world settles down?

[New Dawn]

Ok This is not should I have another baby type of question as I already know I want one... BHL was ok with it but now that we are getting closer to the time that I thought we would be starting to TTC ( april 09 ) he is trying to wiggle out of it... He is happy with the 3 we have as am I but I still have a felling that I am not done yet... Plus DD2 is so clingy and such the " baby ' of the family she just cant be the last... if she was she would live with us until she is 40....

Anyway BHL is worried about whats happening with the world $$$ ATM he is in the mines and worries that if it all goes belly up then we would be left standing with 4 winkies and no jobs... I am not skilled in anything so would only be getting a check out chick job once winkies are grown....

So is it been silly to keep going on with the plan to have another when you are un-sure about future imployment? Or do you keep going on as if nothing has changed and just see what happen if and when the ***** hits the fan....

BTW BHL is very skilled as he is a fitter, aircon fixer ( LOL cant think for the life of me the proper name ) electrition ( sp? ) and he is Ex navy ( which they would always take back as he is high up and knows what he is doing) So I have in my mind even if mining goes under and he cant get another job he has heaps to fall back onto so we should just steam ahead....

I told him that even if we dont TTC yet I still and always will want another that the need want just go away next year or the year after.... So as we are only 29 I know we have still have heaps of time, but I already feel like I am getting too old to have another let alone waiting a few more years...

sorry for all the rambling thanks for reading if you got though it all....

[Shanti]

Being 29, you're certainly not too old to be trying for another one I'm 27 and only just about to have my first bub. So you have plenty of time (as you said).

I think the world will always be what it will be iykwim..... I think as long as you can both afford to raise another child, then why not.... I say go for it when you feel ready

As you even said yourself, the yearning for a 4th child will never go away..... so I think you know what the answer is And only worry when the sh*t hits the fan LOL as it may never happen iykwim? don't put things off in life, its too short.

We'd love 4 babies too! My DH is already talking about ttc #2 he can't wait!!

[New Dawn]

Thanks renstar I know 29 isnt old and wouldnt want anyone to think that it is.... It is just that when you had your 1st at 21 it seams much older than it is to be UTD again... Plus if we follow our normal TTC pattern it could take us a year or two...

As for money I have always thought you dont know what you dont have... As we dont know whats its like to only have one or two kids we cant ever know how much money we would have, as we spend what we have according to what we get....

I think I might have to have a talk to BHL when he get home and see what he is really thinking....

One things for sure we would TTC until we move and after my sisters wedding in March just incase we make the impossable happen and get UTD 1st go ....

[briggsy's girl]

i think ultimately, money can't be the sole deciding factor on whether you have another child. it can be A factor, but not THE factor. most people learn to live within their means. it might be different means to what you have now, but it's what you have then. i've been the child of parents that were on reasonable money, but dad got hurt, took a redundancy package when interest rates were excessively high, paid out the house, and lived on income support for over 13 years. it's NOT ideal - but, as a family, our priorities changed, we lived a different lifestyle - but we still survived!

given your DH's varied background, there is no reason to think he'd be long term unemployed. there will ALWAYS be work for skilled labourers - academics might struggle a bit, but labourers will always be needed. the pay might not be as good, but it's still a job...