TTC and other peoples unwanted opinions

[Danielle]

hey there ladies

I am wondering if you have experienced drama's with other people's opinions about when is best for you to start TTC again (not that its anyone elses business but your own of course). And how many of you have more than 2 babies and TTC even more, and the opinions family and friends may of had, how did it affect you and how did you deal with it?

I have 2 gorgeous kids Lilly 3 1/2 Ryley 7 months old, and I am "nearly" ready to start TTC for no.3 But everyone has an opinion on this and thats why I havnt mentioned it to my family or friends I am concerned of them giving me negative feedback on it, I am not even sure how Im going to tell them all Im pregnant again when I do get pregnant with no.3. Because apparently I have no need to have anymore cause I have 2 ones a girl ones a boy so why go back for more?

Do you get this alot too? ARGH! It's so frustrating!

So I am interested in hearing TTC stories and other peoples unwanted opinions and how you managed with it all, I dont think no babies bad news its the greatest gift god gives us on this earth!

thanks in advance ladies!

Oh- And I certainly get told I must be nuts or mad alot too! But in reality I just love kids

[Shanti]

It's probably best just not to tell anyone that you are TTC..... because you will always get people's unwanted remarks/opinions.

Just try to ignore those rude remarks and enjoy the positive comments you get from others

I think go for it! If thats what you want!!! Good luck and have fun

ps for our 2nd bub we aren't going to tell anyone we are TTC either.

[Michelle71]

I choose not to tell people when we are TTC and have even had to respond with "it just isn't that simple for some people" when asked (multiple times by a stupid relative who got me on a bad day ) when we were going to have a baby in the first place (it took 3 years to conceive our stillborn daughter).

I have a beautiful little boy and we are cooking a little girl at the moment. I know there will be some who assume we will stop there due to the "pigeon pair" but I have always wanted 3 living babies so I will be heading back for a 3rd. I actually tell people this when they ask if we know the gender (we do - just not telling them ) so they already know my position and (hopefully) won't ask such a stupid question.

Although really - it is no one else's business. You don't have to tell them anything

[Gabi]

We had some negative comments when we were ttc our FIRST bub. I won't be telling again.

My plan is to preempt negative opinions on future pregnancies by starting with 'we have some awesome news, we're so excited and happy to tell you that... we're pregnant again.'

How could anyone say something negative after a big wind up?

[Heaven]

Oh some ppl are so stupid, no idea why ppl would think it is your goal to just have one of each sex. Just try to ignore them, and I agree with the others, I wouldn't be telling ppl when you are TTC. Good luck!!

[Captain]

Yep, I get heaps of comments about trying for a boy, because we have 2 beautiful girls. It's a bit annoying because if we have a 3rd bubs it will have nothing to do with trying for a boy. It'd be perfectly happy with all girls!!!

[OceanPrincess]

We had some negative comments when we were ttc our FIRST bub. I won't be telling again.

Ditto - even when we fell pg, people were amazed and said stupid things like "But you only just got married, shouldn't you wait until you've been a married couple for a few years first?!" This was when I was 9wks pg...

People always have opinions. We are not telling anyone when we decide to start trying again and we are not going to tell anyone (bar family) until we are 12 weeks, when it comes time for no 2 or 3 or... whatever!

I have a friend who has just had her 3rd, she had two girls and has just had a boy. So many people assumed they wanted a boy... but they would have been happy either way!

[Counting Days]

what makes me laugh is when family keeps dropping hints when they dont know that you are actually TTC

I am just sick of the waiting hoping that this month will be theone for us