TTC #3 nerves

[Liviam]

I have always wanted three gorgeous kids and my DH has been completely against three and always happy with our 2 kids. This weekend he has changed his mind and would love for us to have 3 kids .
I have been so excited all day and we have got it all planned. I am now sitting here and not being able to sleep because I am worried about having our 3rd gorgeous child.
Can I be a mum to three kids? Can I go back to sleepless nights? Will our house fit 3 kids (it's a smallish house)? Can we afford 3 kids?
After trying to talk DH around for the last 19 months I am sitting here having second thoughts and I'm not sure we should. Have I just been talking about having another baby because I knew DH wouldn't?
Or am I just having second thoughts/nerves?
How do I know which one it is?
TIA!!

[~Kim~]

I don't know the answer but....are you sure you aren't in my brain???
I have those exact same thoughts.....and I thought I had it sorted

[Enchanted]

Argh! So exciting hun! I get what you mean about feeling scared though, I am the same when I think about a possible third bubba!
You will be fine, you'll all fit into your house... you might just not have anywhere to run to though when you need 5 mins
Sorry, seriously though.... if you really want another one everything will work out because you want it to and it will have to! xo

[mummy of 3 boys]

exciting news, maybe you are just nervous about how you will cope with 3 children

I just had a bub 6wks ago and already thinking about a 3rd, whether i should or whether i shouldnt, im asking the same things that your asking
I would like a little girl, my main question is will i get that little girl or would i end up with another boy, big decisions...Im trying to decide because i dont want a huge age gap so i need to decide quickly

Im sure if you do end up going ahead with TTC you will be a fantastic mummy again and do your best you can with everything!

[Mildez]

I think your reaction is completely normal. Its sounds like your DH has suddenly sprung it on you that he would like a 3rd to so your probably in shock. I'm so pleased for you that he has come around.

[Arimeh]

We are in a 3 bedroom unit and we fit us in fine. The kids are only small, don't take up too much room. The two oldest share a bed in one bedroom, and then the youngest sleeps by herself, but the two girls share a cupboard for their clothes in that room - if that makes sense! LOL

Soo if your house is at least 3 bedroom you should be fine for room. Good storage is the key I have found.

Being a mum to 3 is heaps easier than being a mum to 2. Heaps easier.

Sleepless nights don't last forever. Money seems to find a way to working out for you - your FTB will go up anyway with a 3rd child. You hardly need anything for a 3rd (especially if its the same gender as one of your others) because you can reuse clothes, toys, play mats etc etc. DD2 hardly gets anything new... lol

I say GO FOR IT.

[Diamond Girl]

My DH was like yours, happy to just have the 2 kids. I had always wanted 3 and I finally convinced him to have another. I had similar feelings to you when we started TTCing. Were we doing the right thing? Could I handle 3? Having 3 seemed scarier than 2. I had never had those thoughts before. When I got pg in November last year, a calmness came over me. It didnt seem so scary anymore. In fact, it felt RIGHT. I had never felt complete after having just the two little ones, but once I was pg with baby 3, we just knew we had made the right decision, and I didnt regret it for a single second.

I think its normal to question yourself and make sure it is really something you want. Having another baby is a huge decision, but I do doubt that you would regret it if you went for it, just speaking from my own experience.

[ladybirdflies]

it's interesting how we react and move with life. I am not sure that you could ever answer all the questions and scenarios when you are not living with a third baby yet. I guess all you can do is know that no matter how your life moves and changes, somewhere in you is the ability to meet that change and flow along with what is being asked of you. Everything will find a place eventually and the questions will be answered with the happening of the new baby coming in.
I guess for me the focus would be the 'yes' from your husband and the opportunity to consciously bring in a new soul with love, and all the possibilities that could be will come too. How blessed you will be if another baby comes in, and what that means for your other children too, our third baby has bought with her so much to our family beyond what I could ever imagined before her birth (right up to the day of her birth!)
Go well!

[StrawberryMumma]

Hey Dan

My thoughts!...Yes, have a third little blessing and enjoy the ride! Money will work out..Space will be ok I'm sure too! Gosh, I know many people who have large families (4 or more kids!) in 3 bedroom houses!

I have to say though, having a 3rd for us has been much tougher than having 2 little ones! I found 2 pretty easy. But they are worth every second..A third child has bought so much more fun time and laughs in our family...Being a mumma to 3 is very special..Oh, except for WASHING! arrggghh!

You would never regret a 3rd once you meet their little personality, but I think you *may* regret not having another one IYKWIM?

All the best!

[BlackRose]

Argh! I feel for you!

I have one beautiful little boy. I would LOVE 3 kids but DH only wants two. Part of me wants twins just so I *have* to have 3. I don't want to have to make that same choice once I have baby number 2

Good luck with TTC!!!

[Liviam]

Thanks gorgeous ladies for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It's all I've thought about all day and the more I think about welcoming a third gorgeous little bubba into our family the more I am falling in love with the idea. So much so I have made an appt for lunchtime Thursday to have my IUD removed. So come Friday DH and I will be TTC our third amazing blessing - oh my gosh!!

[misty]

Can I be a mum to three kids?

Of Course you can!

Can I go back to sleepless nights?

You will because you have too - at least you will have no delusions about it, and you never know, your baby could be a sleeper.

Will our house fit 3 kids (it's a smallish house)?

We have a small 3 bedroom house, I am pregnant with my fourth. Kids can easily shar rooms, especially when small. I am one of six and shared a bedroom with at least one sibling my until I moved out. My mum was one of six and grew up three kids to a bedroom. It can teach you some invaluable skills.

And worst comes to worst, you can always look at upgrading later in the game as the kids get a bit bigger.

Can we afford 3 kids?

Well, only you know this or not. But in my experience, three kids doesn't really cost much more then two.

After trying to talk DH around for the last 19 months I am sitting here having second thoughts and I'm not sure we should. Have I just been talking about having another baby because I knew DH wouldn't?
Or am I just having second thoughts/nerves?
How do I know which one it is?
TIA!!

No-one can answer this one for you. But I woould like to reassure you that I have had similar thoughts ever since I decided to start TTC for my first child, and then repeatedly at different stages through TTC, pregnancies and even after bring bubs home. I do think it is normal to start questioning yourself about these things and second guess yourself. It is a BIG thing to have a child, it isn't like bringing a kitten home. If yoou weren't questioning yourself at all, I think that would be abnormal.


Sending you lots of baby dust! Good luck TTC!!!