I'm reasonably optimistic about our chances based on getting pregnant fairly easily in the recent past. Pregnant when we weren't trying when I was 36 (miscarriage), pregnant first time at 37 (with DD who was born when I was 38) and pregnant (again not 'really' trying in terms of timing things right) earlier this year when I was 39 (ended in miscarriage).

As silly as this sounds though, this is the first time in my life that I've been 'trying' to have a baby and it's a bit bloody nerve-wracking. I'm temping and trying to time things right and have done so for the last two months. Yes, I know that's not very long in the whole scheme of things but as everything arounds me keeps reiterating, time is getting short at my age.

I guess my question is, given my age how long should we give it and what would be the next steps that an ob would take if we do have difficulty? Obviously I don't want to rock in there when I'm 41 and say that we've been trying for the last 12 months.