thanks for bravely starting this thread ourlux, it has been really comforting to hear all the other gal's stories too. i am going to get DH to read this as i think it will help him understand and realise we are not alone and there are some things we can do to help ourselves enjoy making love.
DTD in our r'ship has been relegated mostly to fertile times only, is strained and unfulfilling and i agree with you "it doesn't feel right"!
dusty