Thanks for the repies guys...

no there was no warning he was coming, he was jsut dumped & she ran, I never saw her & Dh was not even home...

SDS has jsut come off his medication as of yesterday & his behaviour ahs not changed so far, so hopefully he wont need to go back on again...

We have looked at building a sleepout/garage, but that will be arounh $15 - 20K & is out of the question at the moment & we cant build any furthre our the front cause the road would be too close...

Sunny... it only took 4 months to concieve DD so I think that it may not take long with # 2 (but of course I could be worng)...

Tracey... i am hoping that the tunnel light does come on soon.... I know it will but the waiting sucks