[quote=*mitch*;455596]we get 10 carer support days every 6 months where someone can look after him over night & get paid, but other than that there is no support for us, i have tried, but apparently as I was tol "there are more serious cases".... grrrrr... quote]

I can only imagine how frustrating it must be and the situation where you cant have any more support is just a very clear picture of how our health system and mental health systems are in need of so much more funding.

How old is your stepchild? I was just wondering how hes feeling about being "dumped" so to speak by his mum? Probably a lot going on in his own little world. Is he on any medication for his ADD or going down another path with this? There are often many support groups avaiable even "social groups" where kids can meet other kids with same issues etc.

If you are renting could you change rental properties? If its your own place, is there any possiabilities that the sunroom could be changed in any way? Hvae you looked into the costs or even got some quotes, just getting a few could make a load of difference price wise.

As you have used all your savings, do you have a well planned budget to save some money etc to help you along the way? I know this has helped us personally when we hit some work issues and other hiccups along the way.

And the last thing, how long did it take TTC your first bub, even if you start now might be a while before you fall pregnant.