How likely would it be that I would fall pg?

[MrsFabuloso]

I have no idea about charting or anything, so I'm pretty clueless of when I might get pg. At the mo, DH and I are just using condoms as protection. He says he's going to get the snip and I refuse to go back on the pill or any hormone contraception for my own reasons. Besides it's his turn to sacrifice a little! While we are not ttc and DH doesn't really want another bub, we're not going to be devistated if I do fall pg again, Actually I definately would not mind in the slightest! (Although I have none of my baby stuff anymore!)
Anyhow....we DTD twice this cycle without protection. I had AF on the 1st til the 6th. We DTD unprotected on the 8th and 21st. My past cycles have been Oct-24days, Sept-28days, Aug-29days.
So I know it's definately possible that I could fall pg, but how likely do you (people who know about charts and cycles and all of that) think it could be??
TIA

[blackduckies]

Hi ya lovely!!!
I was in this position and find myself pregnant so I would say highly likely, its always when you are'nt trying this time around i thought I was past O so must have had a very long cycle which is unusal for me but I guess age played a part in that??? If you had a 24 day cycle you woul dhave DTD 2 days before O, so very likely, but if it was longer (your cycle) chances are getting a lot slimmer. DTD on the 21st unless you had a very long cycle you would have been past O so your chance would really be with the early DTD.
Good luck I hope you get your wish, that would definately spur DH on to get the job done.

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Hi,
I did calculations based on the first day of your LMP - 01.11.09 and used 29 days as your cycle length. Statistically speaking your fertile period would be Friday, 13 Nov, 2009
- Wednesday, 18 Nov, 2009. That is not to be taken as 100% as you could have O'd early or late. Do you feel O pains?
HTH, looks like you're in the TWW

[MrsFabuloso]

Thanks ladies!

So how long would sperm survive in me for?? Up to, what 5ish days??? Really that long! Wow!!

Charliebrowngirl, I do feel O sometimes. I think I did this month, cause I remember complaining to my mum about having mid cycle period-ish pains. But I can't remember when that was exactly!

I'm kinda hoping I am pg now.....but I shouldn't get my hopes up the chances are slim and DH doesn't really want another...

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Fertility Friend is pretty good with giving answers you are looking for. Super sperm can live up to 4-5days.

A similar moment to what you're experiencing now resulted in me joining the TTC band wagon. Haven't experienced the joys of motherhood, but it made me realise how much I wanted to experience it.

Its hard when each others (DW & DH) wants/needs don't match up, I would love to have 3 children... only time will tell - have to have one first

All the best

[Visitor7]

There's been a few of us that have been through this lately.

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...e-occured.html

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-have-sex.html

I know there are others, but I can't find them! LOL

So yeah, anything is possible

[blackduckies]

Natural planning books will tell you 3-5 days but with big DD I only had sex once and at the end of AF and got preg, so that was close to 7-8 days out, I did'nt thinkit was possible but my OB said he has heard of stories 10 days out!!!!congrats to that super duper spermulator.

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Natural planning books will tell you 3-5 days but with big DD I only had sex once and at the end of AF and got preg, so that was close to 7-8 days out, I did'nt thinkit was possible but my OB said he has heard of stories 10 days out!!!!congrats to that super duper spermulator.

WoW! Blackduckies... that is amazing. If you don't mind me asking - so would the baby been conceived with a new egg after AF finished? Which would have resulted in you O'ing early? I'm a bit naive, but hold onto miracle stories

[Traveller]

Lilias I hope you don't mind me saying this but it sounds like you need to have a good chat with your DP about whether or not the snip is the right move for you both. If you are not pregnant just now then it would be terribly sad if he went and had the op without you fully being happy about the end of your childbearing years.

Good luck, and I hope you are cooking a wee bub in your tummy just now

T
xx

[MrsFabuloso]

Traveller, no I don't mind you saying that DH and I need to have a chat. It is true and it's something I have thought after this pg thing has come up. Thankyou for being brave enough to suggest it!

I'm still really torn personally between wether or not I want to have another. Not just because dh doesn't want another bub, well most because of that I think, but I also have my own reasons. My kids are getting bigger now and things are getting so much easier in the last 3-4months. I had a bit of a tough time of it with two kids under 2. Both of them didn't sleep well, even now I'm still up at least 2 times a night....last night it was about 4 times to one or the other. DH is very supportive and a great daddy though. I am very lucky in that respect.
I guess I am just getting my hopes up though today I am more leaning towards trying not to! I so don't know what I want. I've been thinking baby names and stuff like that already....my gosh I don't even honestly think I am pg!
I think if DH was all for having another bub I would be too, but because he has been so against it, I have been looking at the positive of having two and the negatives of have three. But when I said there was a reasonable chance I could be pg, he was pretty unfased about it. I voiced my concerns that we had nothing for another baby since I had donated it all and he just said we'd cope. So maybe he's not so against having another.
Alot of his reasoning for not having another are financial-new car, bigger house, all new baby stuff, me not working and if I did, another child in chidlcare (which would be pointless as my WHOLE wage probably wouldn't cover it all!) and just the added financial burden of another bub. Plus he really hates the young baby stage. But they are young babies for such little time.....arrrrggghhhh, I'm going to send myself crazy, lol!!! Maybe I should just wait and see if I am actully UTD!
Sorry for the rant, just trying to get my head around it!

[blackduckies]

Charliebrown, i really don't know how it happened,but I know it was only the once as my partner went away for the rest of the cycle on a training camp??? Back then I had a tregular 28 day cycle,but I guess things can change easily.
Lilias, like you say they are babies for such a short amount of time, but I was in shock and had huge doubts this time because we are out of that baby stage and we had planned the vas, but used to the idea now.. if you think you really want to throw caution to the wind, tell DH he might just surprise you with what he thinks??

[minimatron]

Hugs kel.... I have calculated that af should be due roughly from tomorrow til saturday... pretty big guestimation! I think you would have a chance of being utd with your first shag!!!! Couldnt think of a better word...sorry. Good luck hun either way.

[MrsFabuloso]

Blackduckies, I am thinking about....propositioning DH, lol! Because he was so blase about me possibly being pg, it makes me think that maybe he's not so against it as he was. But I have to work out if it's what I really want too. Or if I just want a baby, not necessarily another child, kwim?? I'm so confused!

Mel, lol! Yeah, I'm thinking it would have been the first shag that would have done it, hehe!! I think af would be due around Saturday/Sunday cause I usually have a 28/9 day cycle. Maybe we could be belly buddies again, lol!!! Imagine that....

Thinking of buying a pg test to see if it would come up yet. I think I had + tests at this stage with my other pg's......probably should just wait for af! But I'm an impatient girl!

[blackduckies]

Hard not to test especially when you think you might be!!!! I guess this will be a telltale sign whether you feel relief or dissapointed if AF arrives??
I know what you mean about whether you want just the baby or another child, its a hard call I think??? either way you will feel comfortable with your decision in the end. You get used to the idea of another if it happens, or if you plan it.... and you get used to the idea if you decide not do it.. I have friends who thought they would love another baby and a couple of years on are very glad they did'nt do it, they have their lives to do the things they want, sometimes I have that little green eyed monster emerge when I hear some of what they are doing..but at the same time would'nt change my lot for anything...well except maybe labour????
Good luck either way...for the weekend or when you test, what will be will be.

[MrsFabuloso]

I did a test this morning and it came back negative. Feeling a bit of relief and disappointment, LOL! Hows that for confused, hahaha!! DH was happy though. But then he also said if it happens it happens so he seems to be relatively unworried about it all! But I think he's more on the I don't want another baby side than the I do want another baby side! Where I'm thinking I might be the opposite....I will really have to dig deep and think about what I want. If we did have another our circumstances would need to change though. And if we did have another I would want it in the VERY near future. I would like all of my kids to be close in age and well....DS will be 2 in 9months time.

[blackduckies]

AAAwww sorry to hear that... I think you would have been more happy than sad if it was the other way around. Like you say lots of thinking, but maybe you should tell DH that you are feeling undecided, a bit of a heads up so its not a shock if you do turn around and say I have to have another baby!!!

[MrsFabuloso]

Definately not pg. AF turned up on Sunday. With a vengance! Still tossing up whether I want another child though....still very undecided, lol!

[~breeze~]

good luck making your decision hun xoxo