Oh honey... I wish I had some answers for you but I am in the same boat myself.
DH & I both agreed that 4 was our number... then DH says to me the other day how he'd love to have 1 or 2 more, and I think the same thing! I am just kinda hoping the feeling leaves me soon as I know 4 is definitely the number for me.

Wishing you all the very best no matter what path you find yourself on