DH and I have decided that we will TTC after xmas this yr.
DD will by then be 4 - 5 months old. I have been speaking to some close friends about it and they all seem concerned that it is too soon and it will be too hard to cope with babies so close together. That is assuming that I will be able to conceive straight away. I dont think this is very likely!!! I have PCOS and spent 13 months TTC DD and only managed that with clomid/metformin. I dont want to go to the pills straight away. I want to see if I can lose weight and if that helps. Reason being that DD was born with cleft palate and I am a bit scared the meds might have contributed to the defect (dont know how tru this is but anyhoo....)
Another concern they have is that DD will need operation on her cleft when she is around 10 - 12 months old. My friends have said that it will be too hard because a) DD will need extra special care and this would bo hard enough without being preggers and b) DD operation will be very stressful on me and this might not be good for being preggers either.
I know they have the very best of intentions and are happy for me... but what ever happened to ... "good on you", "hope it all goes well", "i'm here for you" etc etc.... Now my closest friends have me doubting my own decision.. I honestly dont think I will fall straight away on my own and I really do beleive that even I do (and heres wishing and hopeing), I will be able to cope and everything will be fine.... This has turned into a bit of a rant... as I really just wanted to hear from ladies who have had babies close together.. or just from anyone who has an opinion on how soon is too soon???