If I was a carrier, I would opt for PGD and IVF. I don't see IVF as messing with mother nature (because that insinuates to me that IVF babies aren't 'natural' , and I'm sure you all know how I feel about that, as a mum to an IVF baby), but a way to prevent your child from unnecessary suffering. As a mum, I would do anything to protect my child from suffering, so wouldn't even hesitate to go down that route.

Yes, it's expensive, yet it's emotionally and physically painful, but better I suffer than my child suffer.

JMO.

ETA huge hugs to you, amy. It would be difficult to come to terms with, never being able to have a son if you wanted one. Hopefully you aren't a carrier afterall, but if the worse comes to pass, I'm here for a chat if you need me.