DH never offers to do anything so I never ask.
Ask. Honey you are a TEAM. If he is anything lke my DH he doesn't see what needs doing and he doesn't want to interfere so he stays out of the way. Once asked/showen what to d my DH is a powerhouse of help! Maybe there is something he could do while you do bedtime, or HE could do bedtime while you chill out a bit. I do think my friend found that yoga helped not only during the classes but at other times too - she generally felt less stressed - she still had to do everything she'd done before and she still got it all done, but that manic rushing-about-madly feeling was gone, she was methodical, calm and productive.

Best of luck with it all

Bx