I would never ask some one what their weight was....and i sure as damn would never tell anyone mine even if they tried to get it out of me. Its just not something i publically announce.
Im not skinny...im not just a bit over weight....im the size of an elephant...no i dont like it and yes i wish i was like alot of women out there...but im not...im me...and i have to except me for me.
Girl22, I think you should have phrased your op saying you were just curious and then the whole thing might have made a little more sense.Apart from the comments that followed which just didn't make any sense to me.
I really don't think making snide remarks about Admin is the most mature thing to do, after all they are just doing there job and trying to defuse the situation.
I have found your comments to me to be rather condescending.All I have wanted to know was the reason for you wanting to know.All you had to do was say you were just curious to begin with.I feel, seeing as I posted to your original question that I at least deserved that without being spoken to in that way.
I'm going to bow out of this now as I don't think it's doing me or anyone else any good by continuing.
I'm going to answer the question because it was something I was thinking about the other day in terms of whether other people, like me, have a 'magic weight'.
For me the magic weight is 70kg. If I weigh over that, my clothes don't fit properly, my thighs rub together, I "feel" overweight and exercising seems a struggle.
As soon as I go below the 70kg, I feel so much better. My clothes fit, I don't have a muffin top and walking seems so much easier.
So for me even though there's not that much difference between 69.5kg and 70.2kg, it really seems to make a world of difference for me.
I'm about 166cm so even at 70kg, I'm still classed as a tad overweight on the BMI, but once I'm at that weight I feel like I can lose more weight whereas until I get to that weight I feel like it's a hard slog.
Hope that makes sense.
FWIW, I was 74.5kg when I got pregnant with DD and am now closer to 69kg. Next goal is 68kg.
I have just read through the posts and have a feeling that this thread is similar to the petite person constantly saying they are fat so that others deny it.
I think we are all forewarned now that the motives may not be altruistic so either don't post your details or edit them if you have already disclosed more than you want. I think anyone demanding more explanation will be disappointed.
I just wanted to say that I understood the first post perfectly.
The title is "how much do you weigh?" It is pretty clear that G22 was after a number. I cannot see why the reason she wants it is important. Either you are happy to post the number or not. And many of the first posters didnt actually post a number.
Obviously the posts since and the inability to explain motivation and becoming obviously flippant was unhelpful in the extreme. I think this whole thing has been a bit of a miscommunication.
I personally dont think there is anything wrong with the question...it is certainly not the way I was raised, but then again this is an online forum for a reason. People should feel free to ask questions that in person may not be entirely appropriate. Nobody was forced to answer and if they arent comfortable, then they shouldn't.
Girl22 - I hope that you can learn to express yourself better and be more open to answering questions yourself before next espousing home truths about maturity.
And for your information, I weigh 91kg.
I put on NO weight at all during pregnancy and have put on 25kg since.
Fiona, I'm really interested in your idea about "magic weight" - partly because - without particularly trying to or not to, my weight seems to stabilise at certain points...eg, I weighed my pre-preg weight for nearly 9 years (after not losing my "baby" weight after first DD). I'm sure it would go up or down by a kilo or so (around Easter, for example ) but pretty much stayed around the same.
I'm just wondering - do you think the magic weight stays the same all the time - or do you think it's something that drifts a little as time passes. eg a lot of women find they gain a couple of kilos as they head into middle age? Or is it really set in concrete for you?
FWIW, I disclosed a number because a) I'm in a getting-real-with-myself mood today and b) because I wanted to demonstrate how arbitrary the judgements that we make - collectively or individually - about weight - our own or others - really is.
To answer your question I am 65kg (well I was last time I "weighed" in, I was 70kg 3 weeks earlier and I was ok, with my size but not thirlled
I was aiming for 60kg, but now I am not so fussed, I think for me 65kg is my Magic Number/Weight (I really think there is one Fionas!!), I am 165cm tall, but my focus is more on my measurements than my weight, as at my fittest before having bubs I was 64kg, but I was a lot trimmer and I could lift more than my own body weight, I was very toned, had good looking abs etc, so I don't know if I will ever get to 60kg, but as long as my measurements keep dropping it is all good in my book. I am also hoping to get my body fat % down, me and my PT spoke about BMI's the other night and they are really quite out of date and such a small percentage of people actually fit within these ranges naturally. So we look wholisically at the body, done density, body fat, fitness etc. And on top of the the "I feel good about myself" feeling, being happy with your self.
I tend to find that my magic number is about 55kgs. I am a short arse - 5'4 if I am being generous lol- so I tend to find that I don't look as slim as I would like if I am more than that. For me to feel slim I generally get to a size 8. I haven't been that small for a few years now, having been steadily putting on weight since moving to perth 4 years ago.
Except for when I was preggers! lol then I couldn't put on weight if I tried, even lost 3 kgs near the end...
More than made up for it now though! I have NEVER been this big, and it is scary. I dont want to end up on the Biggest Loser. this is morbid, but my mum was a big lady, just about always had been. But when she died, the effect of the cancer on her body was horrifying. she didnt lose weight. The meds she was on at the end made her bloat. But none the less, I dont want to look like my mums body did when she was dead. That is my motivation. I NEVER want anyone to see me like that, alive or dead. Extreme I know, but it is the only motivation I have that is strong enough to help me lose the weight and keep it off.
I was one of the earliest posters and gave my weight and what I want to get back to - as fionas said, my magic number.
I DO think GG2 could take a bit more time to work out what she is saying, but clear communication is a skill some people lack, I know I have days when I write poorly.
BUT, I also think that the original post and question in it was fair enough to put out there and its up to the readers whether they reply or not. She did say in that post
quote I hope you ladies can feel comfortable in sharing your weight.
I think if you didnt then you could have moved on or like some others just not give your stats. I have read threads in BB that I was not comfortable with before so I clicked myself away.
Limeslice - you are about the same size as me (h & w) but I feel too thin if I get down to sz 8 or below 55kg. My ideal for how I look and feel and easiest to natuarally maintain in 57kg.
Currently I am wondering if I will ever be back down there though ? I put on alot of weight this last pregnancy and its not shifting as fast as it did last time.
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) but pretty much stayed around the same.
? I put on alot of weight this last pregnancy and its not shifting as fast as it did last time.
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