Fiona, I'm really interested in your idea about "magic weight" - partly because - without particularly trying to or not to, my weight seems to stabilise at certain points...eg, I weighed my pre-preg weight for nearly 9 years (after not losing my "baby" weight after first DD). I'm sure it would go up or down by a kilo or so (around Easter, for example ) but pretty much stayed around the same.

I'm just wondering - do you think the magic weight stays the same all the time - or do you think it's something that drifts a little as time passes. eg a lot of women find they gain a couple of kilos as they head into middle age? Or is it really set in concrete for you?

FWIW, I disclosed a number because a) I'm in a getting-real-with-myself mood today and b) because I wanted to demonstrate how arbitrary the judgements that we make - collectively or individually - about weight - our own or others - really is.