Oh, Lulu, this sounds almost debilitating
I never force food with DS, but DP does and it gives me the willies when he puts him on a chair far away from the table and says "you can come back if you finish your dinner"... food iss-ewes is exactly what I'm envisaging when he does that!
I would definitely recommend a counsellor who does hypnotherapy. I know a good one up the mountain You can google her and she's in the complementary therapies directory - her name is Amanda Pippos. She can do Time Line Therapy and she's a great chick, to boot. Have I led you astray with a recommendation before??
By the way, did you knock everyone dead at the wedding, so that they didn't notice you not eating? Tell me so I can tell Lisa!