I'm sorry you are having such a tough time of it. Weight loss is difficult for most people - so don't beat yourself up about it. Its even harder when you are facing negativity from people who are supposed to love, support and encourage you! Sounds like your DH is trying to do this tho! My MIL loves to comment on my weight and it drives me crazy - she is no supermodel and I would never dream of mentioning her weight to her!

what has worked for me was Weight Watchers - because it wasn't about a diet - it was about educating myself about food and being able to track my intake and make better choices. Nothing was off limits - but I had to make choices to stay within my points - or do some exercicse to "earn" my extras. WW also dealt with the emotional side of eating - a big issue for most of us. I loved the meetings - no judgement just support and celebrations when I did well and keep trying when I fell off the wagon. I even made a new friend! I never felt "deprived" on WW - but rather empowered!

Now i'm pg what I have learnt is helping me to stay healthy for my baby and not gain too much ( so less to lose later) I also liked Dr Phils Ultimate Weight Solution and some of the Bob Greene books (from Oprah) .

Good luck - the counselling sounds like a great idea!