I like to have the house clean when dh comes home. I know he hates mess, as do I, and hed honestly rather the house tidy than dinner nearly ready. Most times I have both done, because hes home at about 8-8.30pm, midnight, or 8am (shift worker) all of which generally give me enough time to get dd to help clean her mess, I clean the rest, have dinner fixed up and be relaxing on the couch waiting for him (either that or sleeping ) and when he's on day shift most of the time dd is asleep by the time he gets homeso its given me a chance to clean and keep the house clean too.
Having said that, dh does not EXPECT it, but tbh, I kind of do of myself. We only have a little house and one child so its not too hard to make the place look tidy and have most things done. If it stays messy for ages usually dh will mention something, but if I'm busy or working he will either not mind, or clean the house himself, depending where he is on his work days.