I gotta second FlyLady too. I started up with it when Flynn was about 4 months old and though I have fallen off the wagon now I am pregnant and working (it is just too tiring ATM to keep up with all the cleaning) it worked a treat when I wasn't laden down with child. Though my mum, who was a neat FREAK when I was a kid but is now reformed (she used to say you could tell a good housewife if the tops of her door frames were dusted!!) looked at me like I was mad when I started extolling the virtues of cleaning lists and schedules. She actually said "I think you are taking this housewife thing too seriously" LOL!

Another good book (available on Amazon) is "Confessions of an Organised Homemaker" by Deniece Schofield. (I was actually re-reading it this morning on the train). She is less prescriptive and FlyLady and is better on helping you develop routines that suit you. For example, rather than say you must wash your floors every week, she talks about setting your own standard and not needing to justify your decision. She actually points out that a family with small kids will have a messier house than one with kids at school, and that there is nothing wrong with that - it is all about finding a level you are happy with.