I am trying to reprogram myself too! The house is clean just messy with toys, shoes etc.... I do make beds in the mornings as everyone gets up - doonas so no drama. Also I try to pop dishes into the dishwasher straight away and the rest sits in the sink until after dinner. I am lucky as we can keep all the kids stuff in our back room - so we have a clean lounge to escape to if I need a break (I have realised I am turning into my parents ). I also only do a quick tidy after lunch and when the kids go to bed - otherwise I'd be doing it ALL day. I try to cook bulk meals and freeze so we have stuff on hand for the days it all gets a bit crazy! I figure if everyone is fed and happy - they don't care about things being neat (well except me, lol). Be kind to yourself!!!!