Good Luck!

I agree with Lulu, get him to start now... not only do you need the help now, you don't want to be dealing with a new baby & trying to get him to 'learn' this as well!
And Briggsy's girl is right too, you have left a lot for yourself to do there... maybe you don't want to overwhelm him I guess.. but whatever you do don't feel bad about asking for help!
I would definitely add something that gives you 'time out', get him to take a walk with bub for an hour or so, twice a week?

I don't think you are being anal, I just think it is the difference between men & women (or to be fair, between any two people!)

And let him know you reserve the right to change the list! not to be difficult or anything, just that you don't always know ahead of time what is going to work & what you will need. Perhaps you could call this a trial list?