I just need a frustrated vent. And some opinions/ideas, maybe.

I am so frustrated and sick of feeling behind the 8-ball in several areas of my life, namely home and work, but today we're talking about home. I seriously struggle just to keep up with what I consider the basics: feeding my family in some very vaguely nutritious way, doing the general weekly cleaning (and not very well) and laundry and tidying up the house each evening from the Peter-storm.

As far as any kind of deeper cleaning (say, cleaning the oven or de-moulding the bathroom ceiling or cleaning out the feral inside recycling bin or cleaning the front of the kitchen cupboard or the windows from little hand prints, weeding the garden, sweeping the back porch...omg, the list is endless), well, there just doesn't seem to be time. There is also no time for any kind of organising (which is actually more important to me than deeper cleaning). Let alone any time to look after myself.

I just seriously don't know how to do it. And I really am pretty organised, generally! I have devised all sorts of systems to try to make this work and I can't seem to! HOW DOES EVERYONE ELSE DO IT???

In my defence, I do work 3 days a week, and am home 2 days. On my 2 days home, I get a 'break' when Peter naps, for about 2 hours each day. When he is awake, there is absolutely no chance of getting anything done, he is SO clingy, hates the sling, is NOT helpful when you try to involve him and does not play by himself. There is also time when he goes to bed at night, but frankly after tidying up the whole house (ie-now), I am too exhausted to think about doing much at all, and there is only like an hour or maybe two if I'm lucky before its time for me to go to bed (need lots of sleep).

On the weekends, my "breaks" (nap times) tend to get taken up by DH who wants to be 'intimate' or just generally chill. DH says he will look after P to give me time to get stuff done, but it seems like his version of this is to sit at his computer and say "Peter, come back" when P is bored and comes to me for entertainment. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. (sorry, bit frustrated).

So, that's it, really. It seems to come down to 4 hours a week to try to get everything done. Its impossible, right? Or is there some organisational nirvana that I have not discovered? I mean, I only have one child and I don't work full time- I just have NO idea how mums with more than one kid do it! I don't think my standards are too high (really, I do NOT expect a perfect house- I've never had one, even before child), but I just don't know.

Thanks for listening to my rant. I feel very un-domestic goddess-y.