I just need a frustrated vent. And some opinions/ideas, maybe.
I am so frustrated and sick of feeling behind the 8-ball in several areas of my life, namely home and work, but today we're talking about home. I seriously struggle just to keep up with what I consider the basics: feeding my family in some very vaguely nutritious way, doing the general weekly cleaning (and not very well) and laundry and tidying up the house each evening from the Peter-storm.
As far as any kind of deeper cleaning (say, cleaning the oven or de-moulding the bathroom ceiling or cleaning out the feral inside recycling bin or cleaning the front of the kitchen cupboard or the windows from little hand prints, weeding the garden, sweeping the back porch...omg, the list is endless), well, there just doesn't seem to be time. There is also no time for any kind of organising (which is actually more important to me than deeper cleaning). Let alone any time to look after myself.
I just seriously don't know how to do it. And I really am pretty organised, generally! I have devised all sorts of systems to try to make this work and I can't seem to! HOW DOES EVERYONE ELSE DO IT???
In my defence, I do work 3 days a week, and am home 2 days. On my 2 days home, I get a 'break' when Peter naps, for about 2 hours each day. When he is awake, there is absolutely no chance of getting anything done, he is SO clingy, hates the sling, is NOT helpful when you try to involve him and does not play by himself. There is also time when he goes to bed at night, but frankly after tidying up the whole house (ie-now), I am too exhausted to think about doing much at all, and there is only like an hour or maybe two if I'm lucky before its time for me to go to bed (need lots of sleep).
On the weekends, my "breaks" (nap times) tend to get taken up by DH who wants to be 'intimate' or just generally chill. DH says he will look after P to give me time to get stuff done, but it seems like his version of this is to sit at his computer and say "Peter, come back" when P is bored and comes to me for entertainment. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. (sorry, bit frustrated).
So, that's it, really. It seems to come down to 4 hours a week to try to get everything done. Its impossible, right? Or is there some organisational nirvana that I have not discovered? I mean, I only have one child and I don't work full time- I just have NO idea how mums with more than one kid do it! I don't think my standards are too high (really, I do NOT expect a perfect house- I've never had one, even before child), but I just don't know.
Thanks for listening to my rant. I feel very un-domestic goddess-y.
I"m completely with you here!!!!!! I feel the same at times.
Very interested to hear what others have to say.
DH trys to help out but it just doesn't always get done well.
Ive heard and been told to stay up late at night but with what energy?? I work full time and have every second Friday off.
My DD is 2 and I ask her to help pick up her toys.. she said 'Mummy you do it' I say no you do it.. She says 'Mummy clean it' My SIL had something of the same problem and she said she would tell her son to pick it up or they go to the bin. 3 days the toys have been sitting in a bin bag in the garage.. So that didnt work!!
DH helps, He washes the dishes and cleans the floor after Ive done a song and dance! Why is it men work less hours come home and think they should get alone time every day?
I struggle to keep up with everything also, and being so close to end of preg I have even less energy and massive swollen feet!! DH tells me to rest but yet he sits on laptop and lets DS annoy me or wont me for attention. I think all DH's are the same with there idea of entertaining child while they sit on computer.
I could have written your post hun. the very little time I get to do the 'extras' gets taken up by actually spending some time on me- and then i feel guilty about it
I have conceded, I think. Until we can afford a maid, or the kids move out, the back windows will be filthy, the porch will remain unswept, and my walk in wardrobe will always be a mess *sigh*
Same here too and I'm so sick to death of it. I've tried so many different things and nothing seems to work/help plus I've got two kids that now refuse to settle/sleep day or night so I'm slowly going crazy too. Over the next day or so I'm going to organise a plan of attack and set a little housework job each day like monday is vacuum/mop, tuesday is sheets/washing etc. I'm hoping that if I only have one job to do each day I'll get a bit more organised. I'm starting tomorrow by cleaning my house from head to toe before DH starts back at work. It's a huge task but like you I'm so sick of having a messy house and being so unorganised. I'm not deluded at all I know it is going to take weeks to get organised and into a routine especially doing dinner. This is my new years resolution - maybe it can be yours too and we can all help each other.
Got nothing for you Jess, unfortunately I'm in exactly the same boat. Need to clean the bathrooms and the windows (lots of windows) still have boxes not unpacked from moving and a whole room full of junk downstairs. DD's bedroom is about the only room in the house which is really 'finished' in the sense of having the right furniture and everything put away but that only happened about a month ago. Working on the Bear to get a cleaner - even if it is only once a month to do bathrooms, mop floors, dust etc. Once a month isn't much but it's once a month more than I'm going to get round to it! So yeah, just wanted to commiserate!
I can't keep up either, I'm sick to death of it. I've got all house maintenance on top of everything as well (gardens, gutters, pruning etc) and I don't think there are enough hours in the day.
I have the smallest amount of me time and if I cut that out I fall in a heap and it all gets worse.
Why can't I ever get in front?!!!
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