Gargy, if you want to come around and clean my house, you'd be more than welcome to - it is a little like Blizz's by the sounds of things.

blizz is the book "What to expect when you are expecting" ? My GF read this book and she was able to recognize the signs and symptoms of pre-eclampsia, which ended up saving her life and that of her bub (she lives a distance from the hospital).

I think i have come to terms with the decision of the SD. For DH it has been an assault on his "man-hood" and he has become detached (and I know from previous experiences that he is really hurting inside). I've rallied his family around him to give him loads of love and support and he'll make it through.

Gargy, I don't think you are alone with retreating, just as long as you come out and talk your concerns over with others - no point in keeping them bottled up