Donor Conception General Chatter #4

**alioops** · February 3rd, 2008, 08:42 PM

Blizz, i am an alison but i prefer ali. when i was younger i did spell it allie but my aunty never spelt it right and i just thought i would see how many people changed how they wrote it. and i figure ali is a closer shortening than allie iykwim.

I have decided i will donate but may not tell my folks, or if i do i will expain my veiw on it that if there is not meant to be a baby then there wont be.

**blizz** · February 3rd, 2008, 10:28 PM

Ali,
mine just sort of got shortened the Allie way, I went through a stage at high school of being Allyson (thought it looked more glamerous LOL)
Donating eggs is a wonderful gift for some one and I respect you for doing it.

I've just finished my packing, am all set for work....... Oh Joy!! and was about to head to bed when I suddenly realised...... i am just not tired!!!, so a little late night posting should wear me out I hope.
My DH is home tomorrow night, yay!!! six days off, I don't know if I will ever get the hang of this shift work thing.
I've just finished pasting the Photos of our cooking adventure in DD's daycare book she really DID make a mess.
I am finding it so hard to go back to work after a weekend at the moment, I just don't want to be there any more, don't get me wrong I love the kids but I really need a change 12 years is enough, sorry...got that over and done with.
darn it I can hear DD's musical star...oh well no noise yet from her so I'll just ignore it.

**alioops** · February 3rd, 2008, 10:42 PM

Blizz, it does tht when there is an issue with the database. ia hve done it and there has been 14 birthday messages once

**blizz** · February 3rd, 2008, 10:44 PM

LOL look at the new post page now...I see what you mean!! thought everything seemed a little slower tonight

**Malyna** · February 4th, 2008, 10:40 AM

Gargy, it was the coffee that kept me up that late. I've been on decafe everything trying to get myself used to not drinking the real stuff (i love coffee and there was one stage where I was having 4 cups a day, many years ago of the real stuff, chocolate etc and I'd still sleep at night) A 'real' coffee before midday is all I can stand now - otherwise I'm running around the house/office. I once painted a huge lounge room in 4hours on 2L of pepsi max and while my body was exhausted my brain was still running around!

Blizz, i remember those heady days of high school trying to spell my name without using vowels because it looked more sophisticated.. nowadays I'm just happy if people can say my name correctly!!

It has been raining here all morning and it has been beautiful, just love the rain, very cleansing.

I have been thinking lately of all of the issues/complications of being open with bubs regarding the donor issue - how will it affect DH. and how will it affect MIL who married a man who has 5 grandchildren, but when her daughter had a baby, she felt it was her first biological grandchild and it was different to the others (and she told me this, along with "well Dh has got two brothers, surely you can get sperm from them"). We went around there the other night and showed her the donor information that we chose.. trying to get her around to the idea that DS will be used and that regardless of the biology, bubs will still be her grandchild - I know my mum would just have accepted it and loved bubs regardless (she was always 'adopting' my friends when I was a teenager).. but I do have a nagging thought at the back of my mind - what if? What if this bubs is treated differently because they are not the biological offspring of gran? Bubs is only going to have one set of grandparents (both of my parents are dead), so I do have a nagging concern. i was thinking (and this is very early stages) that if all goes well and we do go into labour at 9mths with a bubs that I might invite her along, to sit quietly in the corner (if she wants to) for the event, to try and get her more accustomed/accepting (not sure on the right word) of bubs, so there is some form of connection there from the word go??

what do you ladies think??

**blizz** · February 4th, 2008, 05:54 PM

Hi girls,
how frustrating scan today wasn't much better than the one last week follies only measuring 11mms or 12mms. Gyno said I reckon they will want me to scan later in the week, that's another appointment I need to fit around work hours somehow and my boss is already stressing because we are down 5 casual staff members for thu & Fri already what with schools starting to go back.
Topping off my day NO DH!! he's been drinking beer with the boys all day and has decided to come home in the morning.
why he couldn't ring me at work to tell me this instead of letting me rev Paige up about daddy being home only to have her wander through the house looking for "da-ddy, da-ddy" then finding a rotten answering machine messege

any way have recovered now will have an early night myself tonight I think

**blizz** · February 4th, 2008, 06:10 PM

Tarkine,
I just read the rest of your post that's a tough situation I'm not really sure how the best way to handle it would be? we were lucky that DS wasn't an issue for any member of our families (well not that they have told me) I'm sure your bubba will weave his/her own spell around grandma eventually, I don't know about having her at the birth that is a fairly personal choice I guess, I was adament that I only wanted DH at the birth but my SIL on DH's side works at the hospital and some how she managed to make her way in in the last stages of my labour I think it was the timing of the question put to me during a couple of close contractions it went something like "is it ok if ..comes in" my response was "I don't caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaare!!!!LOL or words to that effect, when it came down to it I didn't mind.
next PG my other SIL on DH's side will be invited to be there for different reasons, she has been having her own infertility battle at the same time as us but unfortunately things aren't looking that great for her now so I want her to share my birth if she wants to.
sorry I'm not much help hopefully the others will have some ideas for you

**Malyna** · February 4th, 2008, 07:22 PM

Blizz.. sounds like work is crazy for you at the moment.

I hate those internal ultrasounds. I remember seeing a gyni years ago, and his name was Elvis Semen... Ahh what a classic name for a doctor!!

Have to go ginger cat is wailing at the door.. he thinks that if I lock myself in a room, he is actually locked in the rest of the house - typical male!!

**blizz** · February 4th, 2008, 08:03 PM

thats soooo funny, we had a tour guide on the Cadbury Chocolate factory tour who was called Mandy Minty (he,he,he)

**Caramello** · February 5th, 2008, 09:21 AM

I feel so devistated. AF started about 1/2 hour ago. I was trying to ignore the twinges in my stomach last night but it started this morning. I feel numb...

**alioops** · February 5th, 2008, 10:46 AM

I feel so devistated. AF started about 1/2 hour ago. I was trying to ignore the twinges in my stomach last night but it started this morning. I feel numb...

OH NO!!!!!!

this is just not fair!!!! :hugs: hun, u know we r all her 4 u, vent away if u need 2.

**Malyna** · February 5th, 2008, 11:24 AM

Gargy, darling.. I don't know what to say. :hugs: Will always be here for you if you need to talk/yell/scream or just need someone to listen.

Someone sent me this link about two unlikely friends - maybe it will cheer you up as you are a fellow animal loverhttp://www.slide.com/r/vt7JXhXF4D9gZ_j5FjFXn5EdqAOhOpcQ

**blizz** · February 5th, 2008, 11:40 AM

Gargy,
i've just read your post in my lunch break, oh sweety I'm devestated for you, I'm so sorry:hugs: I know nothing much helps when this happens but I'm here when you want to talk, take care of yourself

**Caramello** · February 5th, 2008, 01:52 PM

Hi everyone and thanks.

My Head Teacher/Manager had a long talk with me and told me to go home after my last class, which I did (well, via Medicare, which in hindsight was a really silly move - nothing like being really sad in a shopping centre full of people).

The cat won't move from my lap, keeps rubbing my face and purring to console me.

Going to bed with chocolate - talk soon.

I'll catch up with you all properly when I don't feel so sad.

**MsPink** · February 5th, 2008, 03:03 PM

Oh Gargy...I am so so sorry sweetheart...
be kind to yourself..

**Lissie** · February 5th, 2008, 07:14 PM

HI Gargy,

So so so sorry hun - its just not fair sometimes i know - like Lulu said be kind to yourself

thinking of you - wish there was something i could say or do but unfortunatley there isn't. Basically it just sucks. I always resort to chocolate too.

**Caramello** · February 6th, 2008, 08:27 PM

Hi everyone,

Feeling slightly better - but that may be the caffiene and chocolate talking.

AF has been heavy, took the day off with DH just to recover. Slept a lot and had a really weird dream (see Blog).

Going to go back to work tomorrow, start life again...