Hi ladies, can't believe we're already nearly through January...

MsPink - like the attitude - need to adopt some of that myself!
Tarkine - try not to enjoy maternity leave too much! You must be brimming with excitement
Joy - how goes the m/s?
Gargy - do you feel a certain amount of peace knowing you've decided to take 6 months off from IVF rollarcoaster?
Blizz - before you know it Angus will also be 3! why do they have to grow so fast?

AFM - well it looks like I'll be hanging around this thread longer than i hoped (no offense to you lovely ladies!). After some really poor communication from our FS, it turns out that in actual fact DH's biopsy last year was unsuccessful, and they had to resort to some pretty crappy thawed sperm, and the embryo we had transferred was in fact a grade 3, not a grade 1 as we were originally told! And it was only through paying for a subsequent consultation that we found this out! We're feeling very frustrated and confused at the moment and feel like we've fallen through the cracks as we're dealing with so many different FS's, nurses, offices, etc. We met with the FS who did DH's biopsy and he's basically told us we have little to no chance of conceiving with his sperm, so if we're going to do another cycle we really need to have back-up donor sperm. So, sadly we're back down this path again. Anyway, i've now cancelled my cycle, as we have to start putting the feelers out for donors.

My question is - i think we both prefer to go with a known donor, but how do you ask someone? And I'd be interested to hear from you girls, how you made the decision to go with either known or anonymous - what things factored into it for you. We met with a counsellor yesterday, so we're trying to work through some of these issues, but there's so much to consider. Also, DH is from europe, so if we were going to ask his brother or friends, there's an added complication.

It's going to take so long.... part of me thinks we should maybe attempt just one more try with DH's sperm - we just need some proper advice from someone who's on top of the whole situation!