Hi deanna,

You've obviously given and received the most amazing gifts possible. My belief is any and every variation on giving and recieving should be possible when it involves consenting and informed adults. About 6 months ago we heard my dh didn't have sperm so we had to consider donor options, of which I'll admit my thinking went to gay friends of mine who might be willing to donate. Fortunately further testing found a stray sperm or two in dh, so we're now undergoing ivf/icsi treatment, about to begin a 2nd cycle after our 1st cycle was a bfn. However, I also have two friends who are a lesbian couple, and we've had a similar discussion. At the moment their only other option is to go to Tassie or Albury, i think. It's only after going through what i have in the past 6 months, that I know we would willingly offer them dh sperm, if there's anything left to give after all these biopsies, that is. Saying that though it probably wouldn't be without a (selfish) condition, namely, that I hopefully would have been successful in having my own baby or two. I think my preference also would be for friends or family I know well as opposed to anonymous - and that goes for either hetero and homo sexual couples. When we were considering finding a donor, my preference then was also for a known one, not anonymous - for a whole bunch of reasons.