Are you certain that what you've said is all the RE classes consist of? I find it hard to believe that a Religion based school only teaches basic morals/ethics etc without getting into the whole God thing. Have you done a similar list for the school that your DH wants her to go to? I think you will find that in a small public school that she will have just as many opportunities for learning as she would in a private primary school - usually the differences come once you get to high school. Drawing up a list for both schools will be very helpful to both of you - as would both of you making an appointment to talk to the principal of both schools. Don't automatically assumed that private = better. I am assuming if you both don't want her to go to the public high school, then he is OK with her attending this school as a teen? Why the difference between sending her for primary and sending her for secondary?

It is a hard decision and one that you don't make lightly. When my DH first suggested to me that he wanted DS to go to a boarding school for high school next year, I was originally against it, but the more I thought about it, the more I thought it was the best thing for him - on the condition that he attend a govt boarding school and not a private, religion based one. So we went through the motions and we find out tomorrow if he got in or not.