Thanks so much Rowellen, I'll read that out to DH tonight!

I also believe DD will be able to make up her own mind, rather than blindly following whatever she's told. I also think the topic will come up long before school anyway, I remember talking to my parents about it before I was going to school.

I had another memory come to me this morning, about our niece. She was never taught anything about any religion, and one day when she was about 8 she stayed over ay a friend's place, who's family turned out to be Christian. We were at FIL & MIL's the next day, and FIL says "J, tell Uncle J what you believe in now". She told us what her friend had told her about Jesus - pretty basic stuff, and said she wants to go to Heaven.

The poor girl was totally ridiculed. No explanation as to why her family doesn't believe, no questions asked as to why she wants to know more about it, just teased for "believing in something so stupid". So I do think his family is a reason behind DH not being so keen.

Thanks for all the different perspectives everyone. After writing it out and reading the responses it's helping me look at it a little more objectively.