This personality type leaves an absolute trail of destruction in their wake. Some mistrust and wariness is good. It will help keep you and your family safe. Too much borders on paranoia and starts to hurt you and those around you. Try to stay in the middle hun. Balance. And there is nothing wrong with remembering the harm he did to you, but focus on your obvious strengths in surviving him, in moving on, in growing as a person. Don't continue to give him any more power over yourself or your life today by worrying about him. He doesn't deserve it and neither do you. Like I said, if you need support to stop giving him power (emotionally) then please seek it for the sake of your current family. If you ever want to chat, I am only a pm away. xx