Divvy - That's what I have problems with I worry more about what other people would feel then how I feel. I have bottled up my feelings for so long so that other peoples feelings don't get hurt - thinking that I was doing the right thing as a friend/partner/child etc, but in the process has lost me completly.

Tinks - part of being assertive is letting people know in a respectful manner (not the banging on doors being a douche :P)