Balancing your mind

[C~Q]

The last few weeks i've thought that i've been a bit blue. Yesterday while talking to one of my most amazing friends I realised that I wasn't feeling down - I just wasn't really feeling anything.

And it occured to me that it's just that nothing was making me bounce with happiness - there was nothing "wrong", lots of "right" but nothing "amazing". So I was feeling down because I didn't have that "amazing" feeling in my life.

BUT...I don't think thats normal (what the heck is normal lol) to feel amazing all the time. What if just feeling like everything is ok is whats healthy and balanced? It just sort of dawned on me.

I guess i'm always looking to feel happy and then feeling miserable when I don't find it. I read a quote the other day "I gave up on being happy because it made me too sad" Dr D of course! And I think it's so true.

Just wondering what other peoples thoughts are?

Hope it all made sense!!

[Oorki Galoorki]

i get what you mean.. i think.
I too ride out the waves of emotion with lots of flat no peaks or lows...

but i think we need these flat periods to know what a high is to know what a low is... yk?

[C~Q]

And do you think thats the best way to be? So no highs and no lows...not saying it's good to be totally flat and emotionless but it's almost like an addiction trying to be happy all the time don't you think?

[Indadhanu]

I was just writing about this last night!

I think that being ok, and content with, and accepting, what is - is good. But I think striving for happiness is important too. I don't think wanting happiness is bad, but I think being sad about not being happy is a problem though.

I would like to strive to make myself happy, not because I want that happiness high, but because the things and actions that make me happy are positive and good and healthy things to be in my life.
I would like (ideally, in the perfect world KWIM) to be accepting and content with life as it is, even when it isn't perfect because life isn't always perfect. Accepting when things aren't perfect, but still working out why and striving to change it and make it better.

I don't think wanting that amazing feeling is unhealthy, and I don't think that making your life about being happy is wrong either, but it's also important to accept that you aren't always happy. But I don't think you should accept it and not strive to be happy all the time. If you strive to be happy, but accept that sometimes you aren't, then you're letting go of the disappointment if you aren't happy all the time, but not letting go of the goal to be happy.

I hope this made sense? I think I said the same thing about 50 different ways LOL!

[Oorki Galoorki]

i think it is important to cover all emotions
not having really long periods in each but not going from one extreme to the other..

i have some blase weeks (i am in one atm) but i know that soon i will be on a high again.. then i may drop low..

[Lulu]

I don't think it's healthy to try to avoid down times, in fact I believe my best moments of clarity have come from the dark places iykwim? I was reading a great article (that I'm still trying to track down to post here) in which it has been found the we actually operate at a higher level when feeling down/depressed.

Maybe the emos are onto something ? lol

Although Miss Combat, I think you should also consider the highs you get from the physical side of your job. It's fairly known that lots of people get addicted to jogging because of the 'highs' experienced. Not saying you are addicted , but it may well be a physical thing for you too.