What do people think?

(this is also a bit venty)

Do you have to put aside time to "organise your thoughts and feelings" and to tidy up your emotional state so you can see/understand things more clearly?

Or do you just let yourself feel whatever bobs to the surface first? Is thinking twice about your emotional reaction to anything not as authentic as your first impulsive feeling?

Do you ever feel tired and emotionally exhausted because you constantly have to help other adults around you do their emotional house keeping for them? Example: your partner is a worry wart and you are regularly helping him to self-soothe. Or your partner has a bad temper and you are constantly on edge and ready to help them calm down?

This is what i mean when people neglect their emotional house keeping. Don't get me wrong... i'm not perfect... even i need a bit of help too

It doesn't apply to children. Just like in the practical ways we help them to learn to tidy up after themselves we are meant to help them to self-soothe and manage temper etc.

If anyone has any tips on how to help other adults do their emotional house work i'd love to hear them! Or you might not think it's necessary as our emotions are not something we have any control over anyhow. Whatever your thoughts please feel free to share.