I am looking forward to grandchildren... but I don't want to impose children on DS. I want to either have more children or just steal grandchildren from families near me with no family nearby to rely on.

I do want things for DS. I want him to enjoy his life, be comfortable with himself and like himself. I enjoy his company and hope he enjoys mine - and he will do when he's older. DS loves playing hair and make-up or cooking as much as with trains... he's happy so I'm happy. He can be a hairdresser when he grows up or a stationmaster (his top two career choices atm). So long as he is content and enjoying life, how can you want more for your child?

I suppose it would be nice for him to be really clever and handsome and kind... but maximising the intelligence is fostered by the parents, good looks come more from good deeds and kindness, and manners and consideration are taught from a young age... so I suppose I'll geet my wish just by being a part of DS's life. Can't change that. The only thing I wouldn't change is DS.