I think I've always found the balance hard. I tend to make excuses for people that hurt me and ALWAYS see things from their point of view. I think in the last year or so, I've swung the other way so my challenge at the moment is to find a balance.

I don't want to go back to being a martyr whose feelings/needs come last but I also need to keep finding the patience and energy to keep explaining those feelings/needs. For someone who doesn't really like talking about their feelings (writing is another matter LOL), this is really, really hard work.

It's also really hard to work out where the line should be drawn on continually explaining your feelings or whether the other person should just bloody well listen more.