I really swing with this one. My mother was very narcissistic, so everything was about her. So I was brought up to constantly think about how things affected her, but also that actions/situations never just "were" but there was also something insidious behind them, like a personal attack. She truly believed the world revolved around her.

So I can spend too much time thinking about what others think, but also trying to read something else into situations. Often when confronted by a new situation I fall back into being narcissistic. DH will have to point out to me that it is not all about me and that some things have actually nothing to do with me. The silly thing is, if the same situation is happening to someone else, I am often quite good at seeing both sides and not automatically jumping to one person's defence.