Does your appearance reflect who you are?

[Willow]

I have been told in the past by a few people that they were scared of me before they got to know me.. I think its because I am quiet, I like to watch and take it all in.. It takes me a long time to get to know people, and I am often very incomfortable in social situations. I think I come across sometimes as un-friendly, but I am not at all.. I am shy and most of the time I dont know what to say!

Wow, you have just described me perfectly! I am exactly the same and have experienced the same thing pretty much all my adolescent and adult life. I must admit though, I got to my mid twenties and just went 'Scr*w it, this is me. If people can't take the time to let me be comfortable and get to know me properly, then it's their loss'. It still bothers me when it happens, but nowhere near as much.

[mummato1]

Really! How funny.. good to know its not just me then Yeah I know what you mean.. I try not to let it bother me but every now and again it does. I am more comfortable with the fact that thats how I am.. and I do have some fantastic friends who know the real me and thats what counts at the end of the day.

OMG Bathsheba.. you just hit the nail on the head for me too!! I have the same thing happen to me.. I am of irish / english heritage, but I am about 5th or 6th generation Australian and I am ALWAYS asked if I am Italian or Greek because of my dark hair and olive skin. A greek lady came up me at the supermarket and started talking to me in Greek and I had no idea what she was saying.. turns out she thought I was too!! I have also been told to go back to my own country

[Willow]

I do have some fantastic friends who know the real me and thats what counts at the end of the day.

So do I, and you know that's what made it easier for me to deal with. They took the time to get to know the real me and they are wonderful friends, so I can't be all bad right?

[luna moth]

Not at all, and I love that. I love that there is a lot more to me than what you can guess by looking at me. I love that I break stereotypes - definitely don't look like your average vegan greenie. Except for the bike that is almost permanently attached to me

[~TT40~]

I think my hair and clothes say exactly who i am..

I went to a private school and had to wear a full uniform, have my hair a certain colour and a certain style, no makeup, no nails no NOTHING for 6 years. So I started finding my own style very early on. Mainly clothes, but then moved to hair styles and colours.
Im a pretty 'real' person tho...pretty much what you get is what i am...I don't wear makeup...i think it makes me more natural...more our there if you get me...like im not hiding behind everything
but at the same time...its like there is just more and more behind each layer...now i sound really up myself..sorry.

so basically, im proud of my style and me and who i am, and i wouldn't want to hide it for anyone!!!

[Ilithyia]

For me...No.

I am often told by people that I am not what I first appeared to be. A lot of people say that when they first me they are intimdated by me! Gosh knows why!

I've been told on several occasions that people view me as "rough" but find out later that I am far from that.

I know that I do guard myself religously when I meet new people. And I don't give all of myself right away.

I have days where I am satisfied with my appreance. And I have days where I think I am fat and ugly. Satisfcation generally outweighs dissatisfaction.

As I get older I try to take better care of myself and do things which make me feel pretty and feminine. Some may see it as vain but I now like to go out with my hair looking nice and with eye make-up on. I wear clothes that flatter my figure which I would say is fuller and voluptuous, but also make me feel pretty or sexy.

I guess at the end of the day as long as you are happy with who you are and what you look like.....thats all the matters. F*ck everyone else. We are all individual and thats how it should be!

[Winter]

Not at all. I have hair that I can't do a thing with so have it cropped short & its platinum blonde at the moment. I wish I had jet black straight hair but it's never going to happen. I'm short & muscular rather than the tall, slinky supermodel I see in my head! I would really love to be classic but just can't seem to pull it off, tends to end up a bit dull or quirky. Having said that though, I do like being confident in my skin. Confidence is sexy as hell & I like to think that whatever I wear or look like, if I walk around as confident as a pea**** then people will buy it