This is something to work on. There's nothing wrong with saying no. Pleasing others all the time means you end up feeling liking a victim/martyr. It's no good for them and no good for you. Why give to others if it's not from a genuine feeling of wanting to rather than feeling obliged to? This is one of life's great lessons, especially for women. We are taught from a young age to please others. Small kids say No easily all the time. It comes naturally and then we're taught not to.
There's an old book called, When I say No I feel guilty, that might be worth reading.
Remember, you're not doing anyone any favours being a doormat, so stand proud and say No.





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