I have gone against my heart and the decision turned out to be the best thing for my kids & me. Looking back now, I dread to think about the life we'd have had if I followed my heart.
I actually have had one time where I listened to my heart more than my head and it was when my DH moved in with me and my older 2 kids. I guess in a way it was more of a head decision though as I contemplated moving to the other side of Australia at one stage just to be with him.
I have taken jobs that my heart tells me not to take but my head knows is the right choice and they have turned out to be great. I sometimes think that your heart will follow if your head is happy... if that makes sense?
I tend to go with my heart. And in hindsight, not a good idea. I don't trust my own instincts enough, and tend to jump into situations. Even with my head saying no, no, no, I try to ignore it.
When the decision involves the kids, I try to go what is best for them, But the best thing for them, may not be the best for me!?
Hi CQ, you're still trying to decide hey? I think my decisions are made with 'logic' I always have a back up plan if I'm going with my heart though. But I think mostly I like life to be an adventure with some security attached. For example I could just pack up and go traveling with no idea where I'm heading just as long as I had money in the bank to get me home if need be. A good example of this type of decision making is we currently have an opportunity to go to Townsville for 6 months. We would have left within 2 weeks of deciding but as it turns out if dh left his job here then he wouldn't have it when he got back, so there was no security on the other side of our adventure. I LOVE where we live and our life here but I also desire something different and to LIVE and experience different things so 6 months in another town would have been fantastic but just not practical unless dh's work gave him 6 months off. I also find it helpful to do a 'timeline' close my eyes and imagine the 1st option in it's current time frame, walk forward a step and let your mind take you however far into the future it takes you, it could be 6 months down the track, 1 year, 5 year, 10 years etc and see how that life/decision 'feels' what's happening etc. Then do that same thing for the other situation/decision and I find that one option is really clear and that is based on how it FEELS, you know the subconcious stuff, it will shine through, I might feel regret, loss, deep happiness, anger, love, freedom so many different things and one of the options will stand out as the wrong one. Goodluck hon
Wow thanks guys so many amazing posts! The decision is about where to live, not about love...my current DP is there but he probably won't be after about 6 months and I don't intend to move with him when he leaves so I will be staying there if I do move there.
I guess the decision basically is live in a suburb, quite an industrial, ugly area which is close to their Dad in a not so nice house but with current work nearby or move to the beach, with a nicer house, an hour from their Dad (they will still see him the same though) I think better lifestyle for the kids, no potentail work at the moment but having said that I haven't looked into it yet so there may be lots. Also I can get PT anywhere so as long as there are willing clients it is possible...
So do you stay somewhere you don't like for a bit more money or move somewhere beautiful with potentially less income?
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