Wow thanks guys so many amazing posts! The decision is about where to live, not about love...my current DP is there but he probably won't be after about 6 months and I don't intend to move with him when he leaves so I will be staying there if I do move there.

I guess the decision basically is live in a suburb, quite an industrial, ugly area which is close to their Dad in a not so nice house but with current work nearby or move to the beach, with a nicer house, an hour from their Dad (they will still see him the same though) I think better lifestyle for the kids, no potentail work at the moment but having said that I haven't looked into it yet so there may be lots. Also I can get PT anywhere so as long as there are willing clients it is possible...

So do you stay somewhere you don't like for a bit more money or move somewhere beautiful with potentially less income?