Humility: Good Thing / Bad thing?

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I know a lot of people who could use a lot of humility LOL! Now thats not at all humble is it Heh.

I think Humility is definitely needed, but I do think some people do blur the lines of being humble and being a martyr. Just as some people define pride as being overly confident which I think is not pride and nor is it humility. Its very easy for lines to be blurred unintentionally. And its very easy to justify to yourself that you are x when really you are y.

For me I try and always think of others (its actually something I'm told I do too much and often the cause of my own hurt), even when I feel I have been hurt or saddened by another's reactions (including my children). I'm not perfect at this obviously, but I do try and I try always to go back over my actions at any time and see how it affected others and if there was anything I could do to change that. Obviously there are times where a persons on insecurities may cause them to have a different reality of a situation but I think even in that instance I can choose my words or actions carefully not to add insult or enable that.

ETA: This reminds me of an interesting conversation that I had with my BIL. Who suggested it was ok to abruptly say to someone that they were board with a certain subject so therefore it was not useful to continue discussing it. I disagree, purely because if someone asks a question even if its a question that has been asked a 100 times before the next time it is asked could lead to a new discussion, a new point of view or even a new answer. And IMO it is good to allow the other person to have that opportunity even if it is a question you don't like answering due to repetition or relevance because then you are allowing that person to learn something else or even allowing yourself to. He then asked me if that made me a victim in conversation, which I don't think it does I think if anything it allows enlightenment (not to be corny) for all involved. And unless a question has one specific answer that would never ever change one can not assume that the conversation is going to be the same each time.

This to me is a conversation about humility within conversation. Yet he sees my humility (which I actually think is etiquette and most people do) as somehow a weakness. Well he did till I explained it in a better way.

Yes I have interesting conversations like this often Bath you should come and have discussions one night over vodkas