Ok so here goes. Currently DH and I are living a great lifestyle, we have a wonderful relationship, 3 gorgeous healthy children, a supportive family, no financial troubles and are generally "living the dream".

But the people around us aren't. A number of our friends and family members are currently experiencing serious marriage problems - they are all of similar age with young children, married a similar time. One of our best friends is going through a very bitter horrible break up that breaks my heart. DH and mine relationship tho is the opposite, so strong atm.

Others around us are experiencing financial hardship whilst we on the other hand are going from strength to strength and want for nothing.

We help out where we can - financially we have an ongoing large monthly charitable donation, we assist my parents every month by paying a third of their mortgage and we provide other financial assistance where required. We are very generous with our gifts. Emotionally we are always there for our friends and family and we assist in other ways - looking after their children, doing the school run for them to help out and essentially whatever we can.

I am not looking for a pat on the back, this post is not about that. But what I cant get my head around and what upsets me on a daily basis is why is it so good for us and yet so many others are doing it hard. Why can't all things be equal and everyone be happy??I hate this, I hate feeling good about things in my life when I see others collapsing around me. I feel bad when I purchase something/do something etc when I know that one of our best friends is struggling.

At what point do you let go of the guilt and just lead your own life? A life you have worked hard to achieve and which you should be enjoying instead of worrying about what is going on around you?