Just wanted to share :)

[blessedatlast]

He asked them to do the same, only this time he said to the woman: "I want you to think that you're a mirror. Pretend that he is standing in front of a mirror at home, talking to himself. So everything that he is saying, he's saying to himself."

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My friend asked the woman how it felt that time, to which she replied, she actually felt sorry for him and somewhat compassion

I agree somewhat that when people insult you, it is more about them, but sometimes (say in the example of an emotionally abusive relationship) it's the fact sometimes that you do know it is more about them, and you do feel compassion that why you stay, you feel you can help them, but as time goes on it really does lose the meaning of 'it's all about them' and it does become about you.. I know it's a little bit off topic, and you weren't posting in a relationship example, but I guess what I'm trying to say is feeling compassion towards someone can sometimes be damaging to yourself in the long run because you don't cut the toxicity(sp?) out of your life and that's BECAUSE you feel sorry for them and sad for them that they feel that way about themselves..

I have NO idea if anyone will 'get' what I'm trying to say, it's hard to explain in text lol

[BellyBelly]

I see what you mean yep - but we all know when it's crosses the line to being abusive especially in a relationship. They probably went over the top with what they were saying to make a point, but I would never suggest anyone stay in an abusive relationship. We all have kids, friends, family who argue with us or say things we don't like... its moreso for that. Not abuse.

[blessedatlast]

I realise that absolutely.. I was definitely not suggesting you were saying that people should stay in abusive relationships.. But I think for *some* women and I guess men aswell, they are that compassionate and it becomes abuse before they even realise it YK?? Again I know that's not the point you were trying to get across, but I did think about what was written and that's what came to mind for me..