Lighten Up...

[CoNNiE_Melb]

I started seeing a counsellor today, because I have been suffering from anxiety and panic disorder. She told me that I am a superwoman and dont even know it, and I am way too hard on myself...

How do I learn to lighten up, stop overthinking and ease up on myself??

[skeetaboat]

Good on you for getting yourself to a counsellor. What are the things that you are hard on yourself about? It might help to write down your expectations, the things you berate yourself for. If you see them on paper you might realise how unrealistic they are..?

[Bathsheba]

Hi Connie Maybe apply to become a member of Bellybelly's anxiety support group? Lots of great advice there that relates more specifically to your issue. You'll find it in the Private Support section of the forums.

[Oorki Galoorki]

i feel those type of comments from a counsellor are so unproductive.. it makes you feel like there is even more of a problem to what you originally went in for.
a good counsellor would be helping you with your feelings and emotions not giving you a complex that you need to lighten up

[Lulu]

I have to agree Oorki, didn't she give you something to start with? Ways to lighten up. Jeeeze!

I hope you find some ways to chill hun xoxoox

[Fleur]

Oh the superwoman tag... yeah, I've had that one thrown at me before. very helpful, NOT.

One thing I found helpful as to try & put a bit of perspective on things. Is what I am worrying about going to matter in 6 mths, a year, 5 years etc.
In my case the answer was yes, - BUT, I was fixating on worst case scenarios, not realistic ones. I went on meds for about 6 mths & once I started feeling better, that kind of enabled me to put it in perspective by myself IYKWIM?
I also tried to take control as much as possible. For example , I was worried about illness, so I adjusted my diet & environment & what chemicals etc I was bringing into the house. It helped a bit
what is it that you are stewing on?

If this counsellor is not helpful are you able to see another?