I wouldn't read too much into the typed reply either - men just don't think of things like that. I know it wouldn't occur to my DH that something handwritten might mean more than something typed.
As for where to go from here, that is hard for anyone else to say. I wrote my father a letter when I was 23 and included my phone number. He rang when he got the letter and although it was awkward, he wasn't really anyone to me so I caught him on events of my family that he knew and he told me his version of what happened and why he left/stopped contact.
I can imagine that you would be going through an emotional roller-coaster since receiving the reply! I agree that he probably didn't even think of the sentimental touch of a handwritten response - I am sure it's an emotional time for him too, maybe typing a response gave him a little more confidence?
I would suggest you sit down and think about all the questions you want to know, once they are all out on paper then maybe you can sort out in your head what you want to know first. I guess if you are worried that the contact will not continue then asking the tough questions first is the way to go - but hopefully it won't scare him off!
Good luck with it - and keep us posted because I would love to know what happens!!
sara i too think its hard for anyone else to say where you should go from here, i think its great that communication is happening, i hope this is a therapeutic thing for you, and that even if it takes time, you get answers to the questions you have. I know you have had a hard time lately, hugs to you, know were here for you to talk to or vent if you need.
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