i think it's so hard when you've worked for so many years to give up that part of yourself. well, not necessarily the working part but just that it takes up so much of your life & gives you a persona outside the home. i agree with the PPs - is there anything you could do but on a smaller, less time consuming scale until the girls are a little older? like a toy library or even on a playgroup committee? i know they're still linked to you being a mum, but they might be less time consuming & allow you access to some new people.

i think there may be another issue as well with the emotions attached to the last place you were at, but maybe finding somewhere new will allow you to put them in the past & move on