I think I struggle more with the concept of sex selection when a family already has children of one sex and wants the other. Probably because it feels a bit much like they have an image of an ideal girl/boy that they then, subconsciously, put a lot of pressure on to be that child they dreamt of. Sometimes it will work but when it doesn't, I dunno it just feels like to much work for the child.

However I do know of a woman who feared having a boy so much that she almost terminated her pregnancy just in case it was a male child. At 20 weeks she found out the gender and when it was a boy she dealt with it so badly that she was medicated and in severe emotional distress. When her child was born she eventually fell in love with him, but in her case would it have been better to avoid the risk and sex select? What if she had never bonded and that child had grown up loved only by his father? What if she had aborted, would it have been better then if IVF had guaranteed her a girl for her mental health?

I guess there are too many what if's in this situation for me to really know what I feel.