I dont think that a gender imbalance would occur N2L, not in most western societies but its definitely something that could be an issue. I think its hard to separate those genuine people who wish to balance our their families with BOTH gender children from those who might have socially or morally unacceptable reasons for gender preference (not inclusive of genetic or mental health issues!). There would have to be stringent guidelines for non-genetic gender selection for it to even be remotely acceptable; and rightly so. I dont think there is a strong sway to one gender preference here in Australia; for every person I meet who, like myself after several boys, would like a girl there is another I meet who would like a boy after several girls. It seems more common to have both genders, esp so if you have several children. I don't think anyone truly believes they would get all one gender; and then when it happens its quite a shock.

For someone like myself, who may very well end up going down the ART road to have our last baby; would it be harmful for us to request only female embryo's put back in? If we are there in the moment, why not? What if there are only male embryo's - well we would use them. What if there were embryo's left that were male? I know my DH would want to discard them irrespective of gender, Im not sure what I would do irrespective of gender.

How would I feel if a daughter I chose specifically for gender decided she identified with being a male more? I would be fine with it, just as I would be fine if one of my boys identified as female, or was homosexual. These things are out of our control no matter the circumstances. I think thats something to think about when having children in general. I am certain no daughter of mine would be 100% girly girl with 3 older brothers anyway

Gender balancing doesn't just affect adults too. Ds1 is nearly 6 and thinks it is unfair that he does not have both brothers and sisters. He is adamant that we must have a girl next because he wants a sister; he already has his precious brothers. Everyone else (in a 6yo eyes) has one of each, why not us? I find it hard to deal with because I agree with him, why cant we have both boys and girls?