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thread: McDonalds Birthday parties – Ergh... never again. WDYT, WWYD?

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  1. #1
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    Aug 2007
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    McDonalds Birthday parties – Ergh... never again. WDYT, WWYD?

    OK, just to set the scene, eating good, real, fresh, food is very important to DH and me. We try hard to minimise the amount of salt, sugar and fat in our diet and we try not to eat processed food very often. We are not food control freaks, we do allow ourselves and our kids to eat crap and allow other people (grandparents ) to feed them crap too.... in moderation.

    We also feel we are aware consumers, we try hard to look beyond marketing hype. We HATE excessive packaging and we especially HATE WITH A PASSION small, useless, plastic crappy things and especially underhand (unethical) marketing to children.

    DS is 4 and has had McDonalds once (just recently) in his life when we were desperate and it was the only option. He thought it was old McDonald’s farm and asked if we would see a pig (how ironic!). When we drive past a McDonalds he thinks it’s a petrol station.

    Anyway, the three of us (DS, DD and me) turned up to our first McDonalds birthday party today. I was expecting it to be bad but it was seriously hideous.

    My issues:
    - Why would you PAY MONEY to be marketed to. Why would you PAY for the privilege of getting your kids hooked on that utterly crap food. (Yes, we didn’t actually pay anything, but I’m sure the parents of the birthday child would have forked out hundreds).
    - It was in a room that was more like a cell with adult furniture so the kids couldn’t even eat the crap comfortably.
    - There was an open door that was 5m from the main driveway in and out of the place. Major safety issue! (I couldn’t believe parents actually left their children there. NO WAY was I leaving mine there without me.)
    - The party "host" was just the teen-something that got the roster that day, obviously no experience with children.
    - The kids were made to sit down on the fitly, dirty cold floor to play games.
    - One game involved going to the playground and the host throwing straws everywhere (great, industrial pollution incident!) that the children then collected. She also hid two other crappy plastic toys that they were supposed to find. And this is the bit that has left me chilled to the bone. She made all the children face the wall, close their eyes and put their hands over their faces. Then she said to them in a seriously menacing tone that they were not to peak while she was hiding the toys, that she was watching them and that if she caught anyone peaking they would be OUT! She said this several times and my DS was terrified. She then got side tracked and all the children just got bored and started playing except my poor darling boy who was absolutely glued to that wall with his eyes shut so tight, it brought tears to mine. Nothing I could say to him would make him move so I had to go and get “her” to release him (and told her how terrified he was and to bloody well tone it down a bit!).
    - The amount of rubbish we created was appalling. I hate that “throw away” mentality.
    - The amount of rubbish we came home with was even more appalling. What a great way to unload all their unsold plastic bits of crap.

    Anyway, I have decided that if we get invited to another McDonalds party I will politely decline. I won’t lie and say we’ve got something else on, I’ll say "I’m sorry our family just doesn’t do McDonalds parties".

    What do you think? Would you be offended if someone said this to you? Am I going to harm my children by not letting them go to these things?

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    Jan 2008
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    We had McDonalds parties/HJ parties when we were young. Im still breathing now. I dont think something thats done once a year is going to harm a child. Its your choice not to let your kids go to the parties but I guess you have to weigh it up between the social aspect and what you believe in?

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    I know, I know and like I said, we are not food control freaks but everything about the marketing, packaging and waste associated with it has just left me seething!

    ETA: Tinks, yeah, I’ve got no idea what I meant by “harm my child” either?

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    I am so thankful that we have never been invited to a Maccas party. If we were, I would politely decline the invitation.
    I agree with your comments about pollution, waste, marketing, etc.
    We don't eat animals, so that would be my major reason for giving it a miss.

  5. #5
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    Dec 2008
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    It's your decision whether to allow your child to do something or not. I don't know what you mean by 'harm' but it sounds as though the McDonalds party wasn't a good experience for your DS so he probably won't mind if he didn't go to one ever again.

    I wouldn't be offended at all if someone declined an invitation because they don't like McDonalds. Acutally, I wouldn't be offended if they declined an invitation without a reason. I don't get all narky over birthday parties. Your reason is a valid one though. I wouldn't allow my kids to go to a birthday party at a circus because it goes against my way of thinking, your stance on Maccas is no different to that in my eyes.

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    I understand the appeal of having one at McDonalds for parents who don't really have anywhere else suitable to hold a party or who just don't want to host a party at home. But that party just sounds awful. Id be putting in a complaint about the way that girl spoke to the kids because that is just inappropriate IMO. But I'm like you, I would hate the thought of my kids going to a macca's party. We go there sometimes, sure, but I still don't like them LOL.

    And I hope DS was OK after that

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    Aug 2007
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    Trill, he’s fine, it’s the seriously hormonal Mumma Bear that’s still calming down.

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    I have never let my kids go back to a McDonalds party since we were at one once. When it came time to cut their cake they brought out two. One pre cut and one for the child to blow out the candle. The one that the child blew and spat all over then went back out into the store room. We were all thinking... umm what are they doing with that cake, is that just the spit cake or will that be cut up for the next party. Totally freaked a few of us out and there ended up being a lot of pre cut cake sitting on the tables gradually melting in case that was the spit cake from the previous party.

    I have had HJs parties for my own kids, and totally agree about the people who are in charge of the games etc.

    If someone told me that they don't "do" HJs/Maccas parties, then it wouldn't offend me.

  9. #9

    Jan 2008
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    Bah! I forgot to add that I wouldnt be offended if someone said they dont do Maccas parties. Damn baby brain

  10. #10
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    Aug 2008
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    I have never let my kids go back to a McDonalds party since we were at one once. When it came time to cut their cake they brought out two. One pre cut and one for the child to blow out the candle. The one that the child blew and spat all over then went back out into the store room. We were all thinking... umm what are they doing with that cake, is that just the spit cake or will that be cut up for the next party. Totally freaked a few of us out and there ended up being a lot of pre cut cake sitting on the tables gradually melting in case that was the spit cake from the previous party.

    I have had HJs parties for my own kids, and totally agree about the people who are in charge of the games etc.

    If someone told me that they don't "do" HJs/Maccas parties, then it wouldn't offend me.
    My DH just informed me (he used to work at maccas) that the "spit cake" isnt even a real cake and is just for hygene reasons

  11. #11
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    Oct 2007
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    Will never hold one for my girls.... but did take DD1 to one late last year and it was pretty crap, 40+ degree day, all kids were outside playing in the playground, you should have seen their llittle red faces, the games were crap and played outside int he heat even though there was a shade sail over the top it was darn hot, playground was too big for DD1 and she kept getting stuck or scared and I was feeding DD2, and struggled to get out to help her and the girl running the games kept ignoring her, thankfully one of the fathers helped out. DD1 didn't eat any of the food, only drank the juice and some water, it is one of 3 occassions that she has had juice of any kind.

    They didn't have a spit cake at the one we attended.

    But the amount of rubbish that was generated was quite mindblowing, and luckily I was able to carefully to dispose of all the crap before getting home

    DH has taught DD1, we don't like McDonalds Yucky so she says it everytime, but still wants to play in the playground, but she wants to play in every playground she sees!

    Not for me or my family and I would hesitate taking DD's to another one.

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    while I appreciate other peoples food values if someone said to me "Sorry we don't do Maccas parties" I would be pretty miffed. Partly because I would feel like there was an element of snobbery and partly I would feel bad for my child and for the OP child as they would miss out on seeing their friend.

    I would rather someone just RSVP's "NO" with no explanation but then thats me.
    OK now I’m getting confused (I knew I would) because I’m getting conflicting opinions. Some say, please do explain, other say, I don’t want to know the details.

    hmmm... i think i would be a little offended! sorry! only because if i were to have a maccas party for my child it would be because i thought my child would really enjoy it and i would then think.. well whats wrong with it? IYKWIM??
    I guess this is the thing for me. Anyone having a McDonalds (or similar) party should be prepared for people to decline because there are people in our society (ME) that have strong, real and completely valid objections to them. JMHO.

    Thanks again for all your feedback.

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    Dec 2007
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    I guess this is the thing for me. Anyone having a McDonalds (or similar) party should be prepared for people to decline because there are people in our society (ME) that have strong, real and completely valid objections to them. JMHO.

    Thanks again for all your feedback.
    But would the people having the party realise that others may have an issue with it? I would think that if they thought others might have an issue with the crap food, environmental impact etc, they would make alternate arrangements as it would strike a guilt cord somewhere in their system.

    I am not argueing with you, more giving an insight from a niave person who had never really thought about where your coming from until I joined BB..

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    But would the people having the party realise that others may have an issue with it? I would think that if they thought others might have an issue with the crap food, environmental impact etc, they would make alternate arrangements as it would strike a guilt cord somewhere in their system.

    I am not argueing with you, more giving an insight from a niave person who had never really thought about where your coming from until I joined BB..
    Yep, I’m sure they wouldn’t, so no matter how polite I am and whether I explain (or lie?) declining will come as a rude shock. I really did want to avoid that, but I guess there’s just no way around it. Either I offend them or they offend me. Oh well.... that’s life hey?

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    I'd probably just assume that it was due to allergies/intolerances in the food served (which is fair enough, it's quite common these days) and shrug and know there's nothing I can do - have party at Macca's, Macca's food gets served. I try to make people aware when inviting them over for parties/get-togethers that I'm happy to accommodate for intolerances or allergies, I just need to know what they are first so I can make sure I'm prepared something they can eat! This goes for grown-up parties as well as inviting the girls' friends over for playdates

  16. #16
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    Im with Hollo.. i would be offended.

    Its not like im sitting there FORCING the food down your kids throat.. bring sandwiches or something if you feel that stronly about the 'food' issue.
    Why let your kid miss out just because of your views?

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    OK now I’m getting confused (I knew I would) because I’m getting conflicting opinions. Some say, please do explain, other say, I don’t want to know the details.

    Well me personally for a kids birthday party I don't think it requires an explanation if you don't intend on coming ... now a wedding or engagment or a "special year birthday" like an 18th or 21st THEN I would offer an explanation but seriously for a 5 yo if you can't make it you can't makeit ......

    I think society thinks it needs to explain its actions for fear of reprimand(sp) or something but really a "sorry we can't be there" is all thats needed

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    now a wedding or engagment or a "special year birthday" like an 18th or 21st THEN I would offer an explanation
    Hehehe... So if I get a wedding invite to McDonalds I should go into more detail?

    "sorry we can't be there" is all thats needed
    Yep, got it!

    And thanks again everyone.

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